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Rev. Ursula travelled to Savannah GA for this Wedding of Dannielle and Jim

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    Danielle  and James  Boozer, Jr.’s Wedding  

April 15, 2016 @ 5:00 PM

All arangements were made in 2015 for Danielle and Jim’s Wedding!

Both Danielle& Jim and Rev. Ursula lived in Savannaha GA, but James was transferred to Alaska and Danielle joined him and in Februrary Rev. Ursula moved to Central Florida. The contract was honored by Rev. Ursula and she drove 4 1/2 Hrs  the Day of the Rehearsal to Savannah, she stayed with friends and officiated the next day!

When we first met Danielle to discuss her Savannah wedding day she was living in Savannah but was getting ready to move to …ready for this?  ALASKA!! Her fiancé Jimmy was going to be stationed there! I asked her if she was ready to leave all the warmth of Savannah behind? She said she would surely miss it but was excited for her adventures and new life in Alaska! We kept in touch throughout the year and Danielle would mail me things for her wedding day because It would be to much to bring back on the plane with her.

The day started with a 70% chance of rain for their Forsyth Park wedding at 6 pm. I  was checking my weather app on my phone all day contemplating if we had to go to plan B. It jumped to 90% and then all of a sudden a miracle happened and it dropped to 0% chance of rain!!! My rain dance (that I provided free of charge) worked!

Danielle was able to take the long stroll down the aisle at Forysth park arm in arm with her sweet dad!  Michael Houston played Canon in D on his violin as they walked. In an homage to her Oma and her German heritage she had Rev. Ursula C. Guenzel as their wedding officiant also born in Germany.

Danielle and Jimmy’s reception was at the Soho South Café. It was the perfect place for their reception.  Danielle  had so many great details in her wedding reception! Starting with the cutest escort card holder I had ever seen, golden animals displayed the names of their closest friend sand families guiding them to their tables!


They had the most beautiful cakes, a naked cake from Baker’s Pride adorned with flowers by Ivory and Beau.  From KM Cake Designs they had a cake designed in the shape of the helicopter that Jimmy flies.


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fantastic cakes

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Danielle’s Grandmother travelled all the Way from Frankfurt Germany to be part of this Wedding.

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Awaiting the Bride

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Congrats to Danielle & Jim, they are Mr. and Mrs. J Boozer, Jr.

May you both continue to have a adventures and very happy life to together!

Blessings, your Wedding Officiate Rev. Ursula C Guenzel


The Day I returned home I stopped off in Richmond Hill Georgia and officiated another Wedding! Congratulations to Carlea and Travis Temple! May you remain as happy as you were today for the rest of your lives together!

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Carlea & Travis after their “I DO’s”

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VERY-small-heartAnd now we Officiate in Central Florida VERY-small-heart


Congratulations on your forthcoming Wedding!



Bride & Groom-to-be!

First of all, may I congratulate the two of you on your forthcoming Wedding.

Just to let every one know, I am a Non Denominational Minister and honor All couples!

Love is Love, no matter what color, creed or Religion. I am LGBTQ friendly.

Allow me to ease your mind in this hectic time of wedding plans and preparations.  I will either meet with you or send you information.  I have a variety of beautiful spiritual or civil ceremonies to choose from.  We can also tailor the ceremony exactly to your liking, even adding your own written vows or poem.

May sweet memories of your Wedding Day, and the ceremony in particular, bring warmth and good feelings as you recall these cherished moments.  I am ready to serve you.

God’s Blessings,

Rev. Ursula C. Guenzel


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It is a precious moment in life

When two persons who were strangers to each other

are drawn together by an Irresistible attraction…


May your upcoming marriage

Bring you many Blessings,

Reverend Ursula C Guenzel



Family Blessing @ the end of the ceremony for blended Families.

Family Blessing:

In this case there were two prior children that the groom brought into this new relationship, there maybe times when both the Bride and groom bring children into the relationship. Childrens, names should go by age and a small gift can be given by the new step parent but is not mandatory!VERY-small-heart

Right after Congratulations you may kiss the bride—small interlude


Anna and Brooke you have come full cycle – in this happy union as husband and wife, which is just like a circle of love, where there is no alpha and omega- no beginning and no end, an ever flowing evolution of love. Ian and Olivia please come forward:

Anna and Brooke will both of you now, also include in this circle of love, Ian and Olivia so that you may become a family unit?  If so, please answer we do:  We do!


 (You can present them a small gift or a flower each                    (by the new Step-Mom))

And I now ask you also ~ Ian and Olivia, Do you also celebrate with your father and your new step-mom, this newly created union and become part of this intricate circle of love, if so, all children answer together: WE DO!


Minister continues on:  I now invite all of you to join hands and seal this union with hugs and kisses.


Congratulations, I now pronounce you a family of love!

We celebrate with you in the joy of the new-formed family, and wish you a happy and full life, with God’s help! Amen

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other couples may want to do a Sand ceremony and have a different color sand for each child involvedVERY-small-heart

family Sand Ceremony

Getting the children involved lays a good foundation for the newly blended family.VERY-small-heart



There are as many reasons why a couple may choose to renew their wedding vows as there are couples.  Here are a few!

  • You want to celebrate a special anniversary.
  • You eloped or had a destination wedding, and now you’d like to say wedding vows in front of lots of family and friends.
  • You had a small, budget wedding, and now you’d like a more formal or elaborate celebration.
  • You want a do-over: your original wedding wasn’t the wedding you’ve always dreamed of having, whether because of some disaster, parental influence, or special people who couldn’t attend your first.
  • Your marriage has survived some tough tests- perhaps illness, military deployment, or emotionally rocky times in your relationship.
  • You got too caught up in the planning of your party details with your wedding, and now you’d like to focus on your ceremony.
  • You just got married legally before, and now you want to add a faith element.
  • You are feeling romantic!!
While some couples may have their renewal on an anniversary date, there are no rules here.  You may have it whenever you like!  Couples often choose a romantic time, like Valentine’s Day.  Some couples have a one-time celebration, while others may create a tradition of a vow renewal every year or every fifth or tenth anniversary.  Vow renewals are especially common for 25th and 50th wedding anniversaries, but you don’t have to wait until then!
There are very few rules for vow renewals, and there are many variations.

Generally renewal ceremonies are much simpler to plan than a wedding.  First of all, it is a sentimental, not a legal, ceremony, so to renew your marriage vows you don’t need to get another marriage license.  Secondly, many renewal ceremonies are intimate- just close family and friends or even just the two of you.  A wedding party is unnecessary and not typical, although you certainly could have your original bridesmaids and groomsmen stand with you again if you would like.  The location is often much simpler and more casual than the original wedding.  And renewals are usually much less expensive than weddings!

On the other hand, a vow renewal may be as large and elaborate as you would like.  If you’ve never had the wedding of your dreams, the bride might wear a white gown and veil, and the groom a tuxedo.   You may have a wedding party and a ceremony at  a large venue, with reception following, complete with a multi-tiered cake, a formal dinner, a live band, dancing, and even a honeymoon.  A milestone anniversary celebration is also often a “big splash” – a big party with lots of friends and relatives,  but much more understated than a wedding.

A marriage vow renewal may be hosted by your children, or you may host it yourselves.

Here are a few things to think about as you plan:

  • Do you want to use your original vows, write your own vows, or use existing vows that express how your relationship has grown and changed over the years or that express your individual style?  However you choose to do it, you will be expressing your enduring love!
  • Where should you have it?  Many couples have an informal ceremony in a home, backyard, a park, or the beach.  Or you can choose a wedding chapel or a place that is romantic and meaningful to you.  Larger ceremonies could be at a hall or any venue suitable for a wedding.
  • Should you have your children or grandchildren participate in some way?  (For example, escort you down the aisle, do a reading, participate in a sand ceremony.)
  • Do you want to re-use your wedding rings, have them newly engraved (perhaps with your vow renewal date), exchange new rings (time for an upgrade?), get an eternity ring to commemorate the occasion – or skip the ring ceremony altogether?
  • Is there special music that would be meaningful to play during the ceremony?
  • Do you want to incorporate any special memories from your original wedding into your vow renewal?
  • Do you want to walk down the aisle together, have Mom walk down with the children- or skip the aisle walk?
  • What will you wear?  If it still fits, you could wear your original wedding gown.  Or choose a dress, gown, or suit, depending on the formality or informality of the location.
  • Do you want flowers?  They can be elaborate-  or you may wish to simply carry a single long stemmed rose.  Husbands may choose to wear a boutonniere.
  • While the ceremony is centered around the recommitment of your vows and (usually) a ring exchange, you may add other elements such as a special reading, poem or song (perhaps by a friend or relative), a unity candle ceremony, or a rose exchange or more see all ceremony selections.

Just ask for my Vow renewal Selection, give me your ideas and Background information, so I can weave it into your perfect & specialized Renewal-ceremony!

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Betty & Brady Frail’s 50th Anniversary Renewal Vows

Congratulations and many more and happy years to come!VERY-small-heart


Sharisse & Edgar’s Florida Wedding!

Wedding with Sharisse & Edgar Whitby, III ~ in Kissimmee Florida!


Sharisse & Edgar had chosen the A2A ceremony

They actually wanted the Cross add on ceremony near the end, but there was not enough time to order the cross fro m the Internet.

NOTE: on any of the add on’s or aka Special Insertion ceremonies, where material is needed allow enough time to get material in time for the “Big Day” to be here. For instance Material is needed for the Rose-, Candle-, Sand-, Cross-,  Heart-, Shells-, Water-, Ribbons for Handfasting-,Winebox-, Greek Crown’s-, and breaking of the glass (jewish Tradition)- Ceremonies Insertion all require Material before hand.

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A2A Ceremony

MINISTER: “Let us pray.  Almighty God, unto whom all hearts are open and all desires known, and from whom no secrets are hid, cleanse the thoughts our hearts by the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, that we may perfectly love you and magnify Your Holy Name.  Through Your Spirit of Love, we pray. Amen.”

Sharisse and Edgar,

“Today you are surrounded by your friends and family, all of whom have gathered to witness your marriage and to share in the joy of this occasion which will be one of the most memorable and happy days of life.  As you know, no priest, minister, rabbi or public official can marry you.  You are the only one who can make this commitment.  Only through a mutual commitment to love God and each other- working towards creating an atmosphere of care, consideration, and respect, by willingness to face the tensions and anxieties that underlie human life – can you make your wedded life come alive.”

“ON this day of your marriage, you stand somewhat apart from all others.  You stand within the charmed circle of your love and this is as it should be.  However, love is not meant to be the possession of two people alone.  Rather, it should serve as a source of common energy- as a form in which you find the strength to live your lives with courage.”

“All of us here wish for you a love that makes you both come to know your perfect self, that continues to give you the joy and zest for living, and provides you with the energy to face the responsibilities of life.”

“We wish for you a home.  Not just a place of stone and wood, but an island of sanity and serenity in a frenzied world.  This home is not just a place of private and retreat, but rather serves as a temple where values of your lives are generated and upheld.  Your home can stand as symbol of love, peace, truth and social justice.  We wish for you, a home with books, poetry, and music.  A home with all things that represent the highest strivings of humankind.”

Real love is not total absorption in each other.  Rather it is looking outward in the same direction—together.  Love makes burdens lighter, because you divide them.  Love makes joys more intense, because you share them.  Love makes you both stronger, so you can reach out and become involved with life in ways that neither of you dared risk alone.  Marriage, in its deepest and truest sense, is a spiritual union.  It is the uniting of two spiritual- beings.  It is also two persons working together toward a goal, two souls manifesting as one in hope, in desire, and in aspirations.  Whatever it is that you may decide to accomplish together, Sharisse and Edgar, remember that God is with you, and to the- extend, that you allow yourselves to be partners with God, your success is assured.

Let us pray: “Father God, we are instructed to acknowledge you in all your ways, that you may direct our paths. Therefore we acknowledge your presence in this place, at this hour, and in the hearts of these, your children. It is Your Presence of Love, manifesting itself at all times, and under all conditions which is the love that never fails.  We would claim Your Divine blessing on this service, and on the relationship now solemnized. May they ever be conscious of Your presence of love, harmony, and peace. May prosperity blossom in all their endeavors and may Your presence of joy be their everlasting strength. This we acknowledge, and for all Your rich blessings, we do give thanks. Amen “

“Will Sharisse’s family grant its blessing and pledge to Sharisse and Edgar, your love and acceptance ?

If So, (Sharisse’s family) please say “WE DO” ~  “WE DO”

“Will Edgar’s family grant its blessing and pledge to Edgar and Sharisse, your love and acceptance?”

If so, (Edgar’s family) please say: “WE DO.” ~ “WE DO”

Edgar and Sharisse, we stand here today because you have both been given a second chance at love and happiness.  You are joining your lives in true love.  True love is caring as much about the welfare and happiness of your marriage partner as you care about your own welfare and happiness.

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage: The little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It’s about filling each others love banks.  It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

Edgar, please repeat after me:

I, Edgar, take you, Sharisse, …to be my lawfully wedded wife, …my constant friend, my faithful partner… and my love from this day forward. In the presence of God I offer you… my solemn vow to be your faithful partner …in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, …and in joy as well as in sorrow. …I promise to love you unconditionally, …to support you in your goals, …to honor and respect you, …to laugh with you and cry with you,… and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

Sharisse, please repeat after me:

I, Sharisse, take you, Edgar, …to be my lawfully wedded husband, ….my constant friend, my faithful partner…. and my love from this day forward….. In the presence of God… I offer you my solemn vow …to be your faithful partner …in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, …and in joy as well as in sorrow….I promise to love you unconditionally, …to support you in your goals, …to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, …and to cherish you …for as long as we both shall live.

 Ring Ceremony:

Rings are an ancient symbol, blessed and simple. Round they are, like the sun, like the eye, like the arms that embrace. Circles they are, for love that is given comes back round again. Edgar and Sharisse, may these rings remind you that your love, like the sun, illuminates; that your love, like the eye, must see clearly; and that your love, like the arms which embrace, is a grace upon this world.

Edgar: please put the ring on Sharisse’s left hand, and repeat after me:

This ring I give to you …as a token of my love… and devotion to you. I pledge to you…all that I am and all that I will ever be… as your husband…. With this ring, I gladly marry you… and join my life to yours.

Sharisse please put the ring on Edgar’s left hand, and repeat after me:

This ring I give to you …as a token of my love… and devotion to you. I pledge to you…all that I am and all that I will ever be… as your wife…. With this ring, I gladly marry you… and join my life to yours.

Sand Ceremony

Sharisse and Edgar, you have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of rings and made promises that unite you as a family.  You have pledged your commitment to each other and also to Simone.

Now I ask that you turn toward the sand vessels.  The two full vessels represent the elements of your souls as individuals. Simone is also uniting with you as a family. I ask that each of you take your own, and together fill the empty center vessel of your union. Notice that some of the color changes and blends into one, just as you are blending your lives.  Yet, some of the color remains untouched, symbolizing your independence within your union. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your lives be now reflected as one family.

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Blessing For A Marriage by James Dillet Freeman

 Sharisse and Edgar,

May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, And may life grant you also, Patience, Tolerance, and Understanding.

May you always need one another—not so much to fill your emptiness, as to help you know your fullness.  A mountain needs a valley to be complete.  The valley does not make the mountain less, but more; and the Valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it.

So let it be with you and you, Sharisse and Edgar.

May you need one another, but not out of weakness.  May you want one another, but not out of lack.  May you entice one another, but not compel one another.  May you embrace one another, but not encircle one another. May you succeed in all- important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.  May you look for things to praise, often say I love you: If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you have good sense enough to take the first step back. May you continue to know the mystery which is the awareness of one others’ presence—an awareness that is no more physical than spiritual; warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms, or even in distant cities.

May you have happiness, and may find it making one another happy.  May you always find love, and may you find it loving one another.

Now let us pray: “Almighty God, witness of every true marriage, and sealer of every spiritual union, we involve and give thanks for Your Blessing on these Your children.

May You be consciously with them in all their ways. Bless them with goodness, truth, purity, wisdom, fidelity, forbearance, prosperity and contentment. Let their minds be illumined with Your light Divine. May all parties always act harmonious and under Your perfect guidance! May their bodies be renewed and sustained by the Christ substance and their souls vitalized by your life eternal. Thank you God, for your presence here with us and your Blessing on this marriage. Amen”

Sharisse and Edgar, under the authority vested in me by the State of Florida and in the name of the Living God whose Presence blesses every true marriage, I now pronounce you husband and wife.

Congratulations; you may kiss the bride.


Congrats,Mr. & Mrs. Edgar Whitby, III

and may you both be blessed with much Happiness through your life’sVERY-small-heart journey.VERY-small-heart

Ceremony Readings

Excerpt from
The Bridge Across Forever

~ Richard Bach ~

A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.



Same Sex Unions

As a non denominational Minister and Wedding Officiant I welcome all

couples, which ofcourse includes “Same Sex couples”.

“Love has no age, no limit; and no death.” — John Galsworthy

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During my several decades of officiating I was blesssed with several same  sex couples, both male & female as they honored their commitment’s with each other.

Love is love is love. Whether a man loves a woman, a woman loves a woman, or a man loves a man, it really makes no difference.


Love is Love

Sierra and LaTasha, you have come together for many reasons.  One of these reasons is your souls desire to express your love on a spiritual level.  You have decided that being together will enrich your lives.  You have decided that the challenges that your relationship will face are outweighed by the great potential present in your shared love for each other.  Your challenges will be easier because they will be shared.  Your joy will be expanded because of your partnership.

You know that real love is something beyond the warmth and the glow, the excitement of being deeply in love with one another.  It is caring as much about the welfare and happiness of your partner in life, as about your own.  Real love is not total absorption in each other, it is looking outward in the same direction, together.  You are agreeing to be a light and a strength to each other.  You are entering into an act of pure faith in which you give yourselves to the utmost.

To enter into a Commitment Ceremony takes a great deal of inner, spiritual strength.  The Union is sacred.  It is an act of expressing the commitment of two souls.  It is an act, which acknowledges two persons working together toward one goal.  It is a uniting of two souls in love, manifesting as one hope, one desire, and one aspiration.

You choose to share your lives together—to be friends, partners, and lovers to each other.  You choose to function together in life as a couple while maintaining your own identities.  You choose to grow together spiritually.

The purpose of a Commitment Ceremony is spiritual.  You would not enter into the Ceremony lightly simply to live together.  By participating in this ceremony, you are affirming that you believe so deeply in the Power of God to bless your relationship that you are willing to stand out from the crowd .

Sierra and LaTasha, whatever it is that your souls have arranged to accomplish together, know that God is with you, and to the extent that you allow God to be your partner, your success is assured.

We, who are gathered here today, come bless this entry into a new depth of committed relationship.  Your friends and loved ones are here with you to declare their commitment to support the two of you through the joys and challenges of relationship.

(Minister turns to the guests) Friends, let the love in your hearts for these women and your support of their journey together be acknowledged as you affirm:  “We support you” (Together:) “We support you”

And now let us pray:  Living, Loving Lord, ever present with us and within us, we give thanks for the ability to sense your presence in each other.  We give thanks for Your Blessing on this Holy Union.  May it be of one spirit, mind, and heart—always centered in You.   We give thanks for the blessings of life, love, wisdom, peace, and joy—not only for this day but in all the days to come.  Amen.

Sierra and LaTasha, you know that nothing is easier than saying words and nothing is more challenging than living them day by day.  Today you consecrate yourselves to each other in every act, every word, every thought.  What you promise today must be renewed daily in your hearts.


Nikki & Jameka Rev.Ursula

Comments on Marriage~commitment

A harmonies relationship has a pattern much like the dance,

And is built on some of the same principles.  The partners do not need to hold onto each other tightly because they move confidently and freely to the melody of love playing in their hearts.  To touch heavily would be to arrest the pattern and freeze the movement, spoiling the endlessly changing beauty of its spontaneously unfolding perfection.  There is no place in the dance of love for possessive clutching, the clinging arm, the heavy hand.  Only the faintest touch in passing is needed to keep the lovers in their pattern of liberated Oneness.

First arm in arm…next face to face … then back to back …

It does not matter which because they both and feel themselves moving to the same rhythm, creating a spacious freedom for their souls to grow in, weaving an elegant tapestry of love and being infinitely nourished by the process.

Allow me to share my vision of what I see happening here… my impression of the kind of relationship you have created and now move on to share with each other:  I see you together this moment, not because you “need” each other, but because you have freely chosen to be with each other.  You are discovered the joy of fulfillment in sharing your thoughts, your feelings, your daily livings with each other.

I see you together because you are whole and complete when you are apart.  Each of you is rich in experience… ripe and full of the knowing and growing you bring to this moment.

Now having cultivated your independence, you are ready to create a perfect union, not clinging together out of fear, but celebrating – upright and confident out of your common devotion to that which is Sacred and Holy.

You choose to become one because you are confident within you individuality.  You have recognized the sublime truth that you are, at the same time, separate and touching… equal, but not the same.  You have become strong enough mow to allow yourselves to be vulnerable… to be open and receptive to the full measure of experience your union holds in store for you.

Remember, only the willing heart is spacious enough to contain the full cup of love God has set before you.  Drink deeply of your togetherness, drink freely, drink fearlessly and enjoy the grace.

Consider the song and let your togetherness reflect it wise and liberating sentiment…(Music “it Takes All Of Me”)

Compliments from weddings to Remember, (Rev. Ursula C Guenzel)


Special Reading “add On’s” aka Ceremony Insertions


Thoughts In a Garden
R. Gerhardt

This is a special place,
a place where people have brought beautiful living plants,
here to establish them,
to nurture and care for them,
that they may forever surround us with the beauty we now see.
And into this place where we stand,
you have brought something beautiful —
the relationship that is becoming your marriage.
Here you are declaring it and pledging it,
promising to establish and nurture it.
We are aware of the special beauty between the two of you,
just as we are aware of the special beauty of this place.
We are with you now in this appropriate place to celebrate your relationship as it is and as it is yet to be,
and in doing so,
we ask only that you remember how your life together will have the same seasons and needs as this garden.
There will be growth like spring and loss like fall;
there will be giving as the blossoming flower,
and rest as the seed beneath the snow.
All the seasons will be yours,
but remember, too,
that gardens are not must happenings.
The more wonderful the garden,
the more skilled the gardener.
So you will have to care deeply for the life that is yours together,
and nurture it.
You will have to appreciate your differences and cultivate them.
You will have to take care of yourself,
if for no other reason than out of love for the other.
And you will need the support of family and friends to reach full growth.
As you caringly chose this place to declare your marriage,
so remember its lessons for your life together through the seasons that are yours to share.
And may those seasons bring you and yours joy and happiness.


Special Insertion into your Ceremony

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These are special ceremonies that are inserted into the regular ceremony and will enhance any wedding. They are short yet have very powerful symbolic meanings and will contribute to beautiful memories.

If you want to include one of these special ceremonies, bring the candles, glass (Jewish glass breaking),Greek crowns, Water different colors (food Coloring), 13 colors Handfasting Silk -ribbon ceremony,Shell, sand, etc… of your choosing with you.  These items can be something you already own or easily found at Michael’s or similar craft stores.  Ofcourse, there are the most common additions Insertions 

such as the Candle (good for Indoors) SandVessel ceremonies

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but there are other insertions just as meaningful

such as the Winebox Ceremony or Pnanting of a tree! These insertions are customarily done right after the ring exchange and before a marriage prayer or Blessing and Pronouncement.

Lets focus first on the Plant or Tree ceremony.

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UNITY – TREE planting Ceremony

Note: couple could actually pland a tree in ground with prior permission or choose as above pictured.

Erin and Bronson, will now take part in a Tree Planting Ceremony, to symbolize the roots of their relationship, and the continued growth of their love, as they become each other’s family today. Love is the essence of human experience and emotion. It is the root of all and everything we, as humans, do. Love richens our experience, and fills our lives with meaning. It gives us a firm base from which to grow, to learn, and change. Let your relationship and your love for each other be like this tree you plant today. Let it grow tall and strong. Let it stand tall during the harsh winds and rains and storms, and come through unscathed. Like a tree, your marriage must be resilient. It must weather the challenges of daily life and the passage of time. And just like the tree you are planting, marriage requires constant nurturing and nourishment. As they provide the sun, soil, and water for this tree, they will provide the encouragement, trust, and love needed on a daily basis to consciously nurture and nourish their connection to each other!

Kaitlyn and Christien will water the tree now gently!



Note: some boxes are purchased witha key or could be a handmade box that get’s  shut with nail and hammer.

Wine Ceremony, as with the other unification ceremonies, the bride and the groom each have an individual vessel and blend their contents into a third. In a wine ceremony, the couple may each have the same wine or they may opt for one to pour red wine while the other pours white.

The effect is aesthetically pleasing, but I am not sure I would serve the results at the reception. The officiant guides the couple through the wine ceremony ritual and explains the symbolism to the guests.

Alternately, a wine ceremony can be used to symbolize the marriage bond that persists in times and joy and in sorrow.

Wine Ceremony Example:

It is the goal of marriage to achieve a blending of hearts and lives—but let there be spaces in your new life together, so that each may encourage and nurture the individual growth of the other. Even so, your separate lives will become one life; your separate homes, one home, your separate fortunes, one fortune.

Over the horizon of the future, there comes toward you even now, hours of brightness and hours of shadow, for such is the nature of life.

(Pick up the goblet of sweet wine.)

Life has, indeed, many bright and happy experiences, of which this sweet wine is a token. As you drink of it together, may it serve as a symbol of the joy that comes with loving and sharing, and may your happiness be tempered with gratitude and modesty and a bountiful sympathy for those who are less fortunate than you.

(Pass goblet to partner #1, who drinks and passes it to partner #2, who drinks and passes it back to you. Return goblet to table and pick up goblet of bitter wine.)

But when hardship and sorrow and disappointment come, of which this bitter wine is a token, may you care enough to help one another with courage and compassion, neither one blaming the other for folly or failure, or regretting the obligation of marriage to share and bear together the chances and changes of a life deeply lived.

(Goblet is passed as above.)




Unity Cross Ceremony:

The Unity Cross is a unique way to celebrate the joining of a bride and groom together as one.

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This multi-piece sculpture is to be assembled during the unity service of the Christian wedding ceremony, representing the joining of two into one. The groom places the outer cross in the wood base.  The bride then places the sculpted cross inside the outer cross. The Unity Cross can be displayed in the couple’s home after the wedding ceremony as a reminder of their wedding day and the union they share.

Here is some religious wording:

The Groom places the outer Cross in the beautiful wood base as the Pastor explains how God created man- Bold, Strong, the Defender of the Family yet how he is empty and incomplete without the woman. The Bride then places the more delicate cross inside of the Grooms cross as the Pastor explains how God created Woman- Delicate, multi-faceted, taking care of all of the little things that completes the man, and the -Two become One. The Bride and Groom then use the 3 golden pegs to lock the union(cross) together in the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit as the pastor exclaims that: What God has brought together let no man take apart. 

One of my couples wanted the children involved: The bride and groom assembled their portion, and then the bride’s two children each put in a post, and the groom’s son put in the third post to complete the cross.  They had the children come up in order of oldest to youngest.  I had wording that said they were a new family and part of the union.

The Unity Cross is a unique way to celebrate the joining of a bride and groom together as one.

This multi-piece sculpture is to be assembled during the unity service of the Christian wedding ceremony, representing the joining of two into one. The groom places the outer cross in the wood base.  The bride then places the sculpted cross inside the outer cross. The Unity Cross can be displayed in the couple’s home after the wedding ceremony as a reminder of their wedding day and the union they share.
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