candleceremony with Yulanda Dent

These are special ceremonies that are inserted into the regular ceremony and will enhance any wedding. They are short yet have very powerful symbolic meanings and will contribute to beautiful memories.

If you want to include one of these special ceremonies, bring the candles, glass (Jewish glass breaking),Greek crowns, Water different colors (food Coloring), 13 colors Handfasting Silk -ribbon ceremony,Shell, sand, etc… of your choosing with you.  These items can be something you already own or easily found at Michael’s or similar craft stores.  Ofcourse, there are the most common additions Insertions 

such as the Candle (good for Indoors) SandVessel ceremonies

2 hearts sandceremony set of 3

but there are other insertions just as meaningful

such as the Winebox Ceremony or Pnanting of a tree! These insertions are customarily done right after the ring exchange and before a marriage prayer or Blessing and Pronouncement.

Lets focus first on the Plant or Tree ceremony.

 tree planting ceremony

UNITY – TREE planting Ceremony

Note: couple could actually pland a tree in ground with prior permission or choose as above pictured.

Erin and Bronson, will now take part in a Tree Planting Ceremony, to symbolize the roots of their relationship, and the continued growth of their love, as they become each other’s family today. Love is the essence of human experience and emotion. It is the root of all and everything we, as humans, do. Love richens our experience, and fills our lives with meaning. It gives us a firm base from which to grow, to learn, and change. Let your relationship and your love for each other be like this tree you plant today. Let it grow tall and strong. Let it stand tall during the harsh winds and rains and storms, and come through unscathed. Like a tree, your marriage must be resilient. It must weather the challenges of daily life and the passage of time. And just like the tree you are planting, marriage requires constant nurturing and nourishment. As they provide the sun, soil, and water for this tree, they will provide the encouragement, trust, and love needed on a daily basis to consciously nurture and nourish their connection to each other!

Kaitlyn and Christien will water the tree now gently!

~VERY-small-heart~

winebox2

Note: some boxes are purchased witha key or could be a handmade box that get’s  shut with nail and hammer.

Wine Ceremony, as with the other unification ceremonies, the bride and the groom each have an individual vessel and blend their contents into a third. In a wine ceremony, the couple may each have the same wine or they may opt for one to pour red wine while the other pours white.

The effect is aesthetically pleasing, but I am not sure I would serve the results at the reception. The officiant guides the couple through the wine ceremony ritual and explains the symbolism to the guests.

Alternately, a wine ceremony can be used to symbolize the marriage bond that persists in times and joy and in sorrow.

Wine Ceremony Example:

It is the goal of marriage to achieve a blending of hearts and lives—but let there be spaces in your new life together, so that each may encourage and nurture the individual growth of the other. Even so, your separate lives will become one life; your separate homes, one home, your separate fortunes, one fortune.

Over the horizon of the future, there comes toward you even now, hours of brightness and hours of shadow, for such is the nature of life.

(Pick up the goblet of sweet wine.)

Life has, indeed, many bright and happy experiences, of which this sweet wine is a token. As you drink of it together, may it serve as a symbol of the joy that comes with loving and sharing, and may your happiness be tempered with gratitude and modesty and a bountiful sympathy for those who are less fortunate than you.

(Pass goblet to partner #1, who drinks and passes it to partner #2, who drinks and passes it back to you. Return goblet to table and pick up goblet of bitter wine.)

But when hardship and sorrow and disappointment come, of which this bitter wine is a token, may you care enough to help one another with courage and compassion, neither one blaming the other for folly or failure, or regretting the obligation of marriage to share and bear together the chances and changes of a life deeply lived.

(Goblet is passed as above.)

~VERY-small-heart~