PRAYERS AND MARRIAGE BLESSINGS & NON CHRISTIAN PRAYERS

Prayers and Marriage Blessings

A Selection of Opening Prayers, Closing Prayers and Marriage Blessings:

Opening Prayers

Option #1:  May your love and deep respect for each other sustain throughout the years to come. May your life together flow with peace and harmony. May your vows be fully realized and may you realize their own true nature together. May you both promise to do what you think to be right; speak what you think to be the truth; help others in what is fair, accept your mistakes without excuses for them. May you both accept full responsibility for your actions and reactions.  May sincerity of this resolution give you both strength to fulfill your duties towards yourself and others. Amen.

Option #2:  Loving Spirit, grant Bride and Groom, that in giving and forgiving they may receive from each other everlasting joy.  Bind them together with cords that cannot be broken.  Bind them together with love.  Grant that they may always take delight in each other, and that each will remain in the other’s heart and desire.

Heavenly Spirit.  Everlasting God, have compassion with Bride and Groom, as they process of committing to each other and professing their vows.  I ask you to be with them in all their undertakings, and I see them both blessed with an abundance of all good.  Furthermore I see their minds illumined by divine wisdom, and their hearts quickened by divine love.  And now, let us affirm these things in an awareness that we are in the living, loving, indwelling Presence of God.  Amen.

Option #3  (Spiritual orientation):  Family and Friends, this is a very sacred time for Bride and Groom, so – let us begin with prayer.

I invite you to close your eyes and turn within yourselves to the presence of God; and let us now realize that God’s riches blessings are being poured out on Bride and Groom.  We see them both blessed with an abundance of all-good and see their minds illumined by divine wisdom, and your hearts quickened by divine love.  And now – let us affirm these things in an awareness that we are in the living, loving indwelling presence of God.  Amen.

Option #4:  Let us go into prayer now as we close our eyes, resting in the quietness and the goodness within.
Heavenly Father we give thanks for the miracle of life that you bestowupon us on this glorious day. We give thanks as you weave the spirit of love throughout every heart, body and mind within this gathering. May the blending of our herts prepare us to remember the truth of Oneness as we bear witness to the sacred ceremony of marriage. May the radiance of joy on this special day, overflow with peace and harmony throughout the rest of Bride & Groom’s life together as husband & wife. And may peace and harmony continue to expand, bringing joy to their families and friends and to all others who enter their home and circle of life.
In the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit…Amen

Option#5: God, as you join us today, we ask for your blessings upon this couple as they unite in marriage. Let all their days together be happy and all their words to each other be sweet. Though their paths are intertwined, let them be aware of each other’s separateness. Bless their home and allow it to be a place of joy and serenity. Remind them to nurture each other’s body with mutual love, honor and respect.  Let their spirits dwell within. As they learn from one another, may they grow stronger as individuals and closer as a couple. And as their wedded life begins today with prayer, so may they continue it, praying for and with each other. Amen.

Option #6:  In acknowledgment of this holy purpose, and of the power of this occasion, let us pray.

Dear God, One who gives us the longing for love and the capability of loving, we give thanks to You for BRIDE and GROOM, for their open hearts and willing spirits, and for the love that they embody here in our presence. Be with them on this joyous occasion as two become one, and be with us, their witnesses, as we rejoice in what is said and witnessed here. Amen

Option #7 Adapted from Illuminata by Marianne Williamson:  Dear God, Please make of this relationship a great and holy adventure. May their joining be a sacred space. May the two of them find rest here, a haven for their souls. Remove from them any temptation to judge themselves or each other or to direct each other.  May they surrender to You their conflicts and their burdens.  We know You are their Answer and their Rock.  Help them not forget. Bring them together in heart and mind as well as body and guide them in the ways of Holiness. May this relationship be a burst of light.  May it be a fount of love and wisdom for them, for their family, for their community, and for their world.  May this bond be a channel for Your love and healing, a vehicle of Your grace and power.  As lessons come and challenges grow, let them not be tempted to forsake each other.  Let them always remember that in each other they have the most beautiful woman, the most beautiful man, the strongest one, the sacred one in whose arms we are repaired.  May they remain young in this relationship.  May they grow wise in this relationship.  Bring them what You desire for them.  And show them how you would have them be.  Thank You , Dear God. Amen.


Marriage Blessings  

A Marriage Blessing is spoken after the Ring ceremony or Special Insertion ceremonies.  It may stand alone before the Pronouncement or is followed by the Closing prayer before the Pronouncement.

Option #1: On this day of marriage, Lord God, a prayer is begun that, by Your grace, will make increasing sense in this couple’s life as they continue to discover themselves and enable a growing, healthy, and happy marriage with one another.

Bless them, Lord God, that their capacities to know and share love will increase. That they will learn to talk about and to share those things that really matter and that their minds, their spirits, and their bodies will learn trust and tolerate one another’s differences; that their marriage will become a life embraced with security, and withthe faith to reach outward to the persons and opportunities available to them.

Bless them, Lord God, with direction and perseverance in their relationship. Give them courage to struggle and not to assume falsely that struggling means not loving. Let their anger not damage their love. Let their dreams and expectations for one another not drive a wedge between them. Let their fears and disappointments be opportunities for growth.

Give them lives, both intimate and separate that they might blend their specialness with one another. Give them experiences and friends to nourish and recreate their sacred vows.

Bless them, Lord God, with the wisdom that while their lives together will not always be easy, they may have the self esteem to seek counsel in trusted others, and in prayer with You; to understand the dangers of growing apart, as well as the excitement of building strengths together; and to find the integrity of their lives in healthy relations with You and Your people.

Lord God, make sacred their commitment of marriage that it might surely bring them honesty and love; growth and security; and much joy.  Amen.

Silent moment….

Minister:  And now it is the duty of both to delight each in the life of the other. To remember that they are to be ever one and undivided; to preserve this union faithfully and see to it ~ what God has joined together, no man shall put asunder.

Option #2:  Blessing for a Marriage by James Dillet Freeman

Bride and Groom, May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring.

And may life grant you also Patience, tolerance, and understanding. May you always need one another—Not so much to fill your emptiness – as to help you know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete.

The valley does not make the mountain less, but more; and the  The valley does not make the mountain less, but more; and the valley is more a valley – because it has a mountain towering over it.

So let it be with you, and you, Bride and groom.

May you need one another, but not out of weakness. May you want one another, but not out of lack. May you entice one another, but not compel one another. May you embrace one another, but not encircle one another – May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces. May you look for things

but not out of lack. May you entice one another, but not compel one another. May you embrace one another, but not encircle one another – May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces. May you look for things to praise, often say, I love you: -If you have quarrels that push you apart, May both of you have good sense enough to take the first step back. May you continue to know the mystery – which is the awareness of one another’s presence –an awareness that is no more physical than spiritual; warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms, or even in distant cities. May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy. May you always have love, and may you find it loving one another.

Thank you God, for Your Presence here with us, and your Blessing on this marriage.  Amen.

Option #3:   We thank You, O God, for the love You have implanted in our hearts. May it always inspire us to be kind in our words, considerate of feelings, and concerned for each other’s needs and wishes. Help us to be understanding and forgiving of human weaknesses and failings. Increase our faith and trust in You and may Your prudence guide our life and love. Bless our marriage, O God, with peace and happiness, and make our Love fruitful for Your glory and our joy both here and in eternity. AMEN

Option #4 An Episcopal Marriage Blessing:  God the Father, God the Son, God the Holy Spirit, bless, preserve, and keep you; the Lord mercifully with his favor look upon you, and fill you with all spiritual benediction and grace; that you may faithfully live together in this life, and in the age to come have life everlasting. Amen.

Option #5:  Lord, help us to remember when we first met and the strong love that grew between us. To work that love into practical things so nothing can divide us. We ask for words both kind and loving, and for hearts always ready to ask forgiveness as well as to forgive. Dear Lord, we put our marriage into Your hands. Amen

Option #6:  A Marriage Blessing!

We thank you, O God for the Love, You have implanted in this couples hearts.
May it always inspire the two of you to be kind in your words, considerate of feelings, and concerned for each other’s needs and wishes.

Help them to be understanding and forgiving of human weaknesses and failings.

Increase their Faith and Trust in You and may Your Prudence guide their life and love.

Bless their Marriage, O God, with peace and Happiness,
And make their Love ~ Fruitful for Your Glory and
~ Their Joy ~ both here and in eternity.

Blessings for a long and Happy Marriage!

Option #7:  A Prayer for a Good Marriage

On this day of marriage, Lord God, a prayer is begun that, by Your grace, will make increasing sense in this couple’s life as they continue to discover themselves and enable a growing, healthy, and happy marriage with one another.

Bless them, Lord God, that their capacities to know and share love will increase. That they will learn to talk about and to share those things that really matter and that their minds, their spirits, and their bodies will learn trust and tolerate one another’s differences; that their marriage will become a life embraced with security, and with the faith to reach outward to the persons and opportunities available to them.

Bless them, Lord God, with direction and perseverance in their relationship. Give them courage to struggle and not to assume falsely that struggling means not loving.  Let their anger not damage their love. Let their dreams and expectations for one another not drive a wedge between them. Let their fears and disappointments be opportunities for growth.

Give them lives, both intimate and separate that they might blend what is special about each one with one another. Give them experiences and friends to nourish and recreate their sacred vows.

Bless them, Lord God, with the wisdom that while their lives together will not always be easy, they may have the self esteem to seek counsel in trusted others, and in prayer with You; to understand the dangers of growing apart, as well as the excitement of building strengths together; and to find the integrity of their lives in healthy relations with You and Your people.

Lord God, make sacred their commitment of marriage that it might surely bring them honesty and love; growth and security; and much joy.  Amen.


 

Closing Prayers

Option #1:  Let us pray.  God, we ask for your blessings upon this man and woman (couple), as we celebrate this momentous occasion in their lives.  Grant them happiness and contentment as they establish their new home, create a new family and explore the depths of their love for one another and for you.  Bless their families and friends and the relationships, which have supported, strengthened and sustained them throughout their lives.  Bless their home as a place of love and of peace. And if times grow hard and tempers grow short, help them to look into their hearts and remember the love that brought them here today  Amen.

 Option #2: Now Let us pray:

Smile on these two people Lord as side by side they stand-Promising to live and love together hand in hand….
Fill their hearts with laughter and their souls with understanding. Touch them with their gentle strength for when life’s demanding
Warm them in the light of truth and wisdom’s precious gold.  And bless their friendship, Lord.  With all the love two hearts can hold.

Thank you God, for Your Presence here with us, and your Blessing on this marriage.  Amen.

 Option #3 (Contemporary): Let us share a moment of prayer now as we acknowledge the eternal presence of the Holy Spirit of God working in and through every moment of our lives. Let us remember always, to acknowledge with perfect fidelity the eternal Presence of the Loving Force that gives life to all creation…including this couple and the love they share with each other.

Father God, we pray for harmony, creativity, as well as love and laughter to continue to fill this new dimension of relationship that Bride and Groom, have chosen to enter into. We pray for abundant joy for them to share with all the people who touch their lives. We pray for their home that it may be a sanctuary of peaceful and loving and nourishing to the human spirit.
May God’s Light and Love and Peace and Joy be with you Bride and Groom, as your journey of love unfolds. Amen

Option #4: Bless this Marriage, as Anita and Fred, begin their journey down the Road of life together. May they respect each other’s like and dislikes, opinion and beliefs, hopes and dreams, and fears even though they may not always understand each other.
May they rest in the knowledge that no matter what happens by holding on to each other things will work out for the best.
Most of all, dear God, help them to keep the torch of love burning with the fire that that they now share in their hearts. Amen.

OPTION#5: Minister: “”MARRIAGE PRAYER”!
“Bless this marriage, as Nikkia and Tony, begin their journey down the road of life together. May they respect each other’s likes and dislikes, opinions and beliefs, hopes and dreams, and fears even thoughthey may not always understand each other. May they rest in the knowledge that no matter what happens by holding on to each other things will work out for the best.
Most of all, dear God, help them to keep the torch of love burning with the fire that they now share in their hearts. AMEN!”

 Option #6: Minister:   Let us pray. May the Lord God bless, preserve and keep you. We thank you for this man and woman and the love and faithfulness they have given each other and for the pledge that they have made today. We ask that you send your blessing upon them as they look forward to many happy  years together.   Look graciously upon them that they may continue to love, honor and cherish each other.  Amen

Option #7 (Traditional):  LET US PRAY,  In the years which shall bring Bride and Groom into greater age and wisdom, we pray that their love shall ever be young. In this hope may they keep the vows made on this day and that they share the fruits of their life together. Amen

Option #8: Let us pray, As we acknowledge the eternal presence of the Holy Spirit of God working in and through every moment of our lives.   God, we pray for harmony and creativity, as well as love and laughter to continue to fill this new dimension of their relationship, that John and Kim have chosen to enter into.  We pray for abundant joy for them.  We pray for their home that it may be a sanctuary for all that is peaceful and loving and nourishing to the human spirit. May God’s Light, Love, Peace and Joy be with John and Kim, as their journey of Love unfolds. Amen

Option #9 (An old Celtic prayer): May the road rise up to meet you. May the wind be always at your back.  May the sun shine warm upon your face; the rains fall soft upon your fields and until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of His hand.  Amen

Option #10 The Lord’s Prayer King James Version (KJV): These are the words from the Lord’s prayer in Matthew 6:9-13, taken from the King James Bible (Authorized version of the scriptures:

Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.   Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.  Give us this day our daily bread.  And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.  And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.


 

Non-Christian Prayers for Weddings

Ojibwa Wedding Prayer

Spouse 1: Today we give thanks for our many blessings

Spouse 2: We give thanks for the sky above and the earth below

Spouse 1: We give thanks for the rising of the sun and the moon

Spouse 2: We give thanks for the beauty of our surroundings

Spouse 1: We give thanks for our parents who brought us into this world and taught us about life

Spouse 2: We give thanks for our brothers and sisters who shared our childhood with us

Spouse 1: We give thanks for our friends who have journeyed along life’s path with us

Spouse 2: We give thanks for the laughter of the children

Together: And we give thanks for the love in our hearts

Another version of the Indian (Apache) Blessing

Now we feel no rain, for each of us will be shelter to the other. Now we feel no cold, for each of us will be warmth to the other. Now there is no loneliness, for each of us will be a companion to the other. We are two bodies, but there is one life before us and one home. When evening falls, I’ll look up and there you will be. I’ll take your hand; you’ll take mine and we’ll turn together To look at the road we traveled to reach this – the hour of our happiness. It stretches behind us, even as the future lies ahead. A long and winding road, whose every turn means discovery. Old hopes, new laughter, shared fears. The adventure has just begun.

The Elements of Love

The Elements of Love

May your Love be like the earth

Rich, natural, and deeply rooted

Strong as rock yet soft as sand

Always growing and always patient

May your love be like fire

Passionate, intense and energetic

A flame that never dies

As radiant as the morning sun

And as warm as an evening embrace

May your love be like water

Moving, constantly changing

Never still, never stagnant

As vast as the ocean

And as fresh as a spring’s rain

May your love be like air

The sharing of dreams, thoughts and emotions

Always fragrant, always carefree

Found in the breeze of a whisper

Or in the breath of a kiss

May your love be like all four elements

Physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually intertwined

To create the perfect balance

And to craft the perfect ribbon

For to bind these two hearts into one.